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Candy Irven

Day 42: Cheers to the feminine

Updated: Dec 20, 2021


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I honestly hadn’t really given archetypes much thought in well over a year.  I’d spent a good deal of time in therapy learning about them and determining which archetypes I existed predominately in.  A healthy female is able to move effortlessly between the various types as needed.  I’m sure it’s no surprise that that wasn’t my experience.

More about that later….a lot later.

I just assumed that I was thinking about this because I had a busy day of appointments planned with women…oh, and my male shaman, Jim.  Shout out to Jim!

First up was lunch with Coach K.  Coach K reached out to me on behalf of the iPEC community to welcome me into the life coaching program I’ll be starting in July.  She had a bit of a head start on me since she’s been reading my blog but I immediately felt like I’d known her for years.  I think we clicked.  We both had stories that involved leaving corporate America, learning to follow our intuition, and trusting in the energy of the Universe.  At the heart of everything, we both yearned for (and knew) there was more to life than a 9-to-5 job….and that’s what we’re focused on creating.

She’s energetic and welcoming and I can’t wait to get to know her better.  I have a strong feeling that we’re going to be working together…in some capacity…soon.  If there was any doubt about my choice to become a life coach, Coach K grounded me in my decision.  She was talking my language…directly to my heart.  Thank you, Coach K, for confirming my decision and quieting some fears I hadn’t realized I had until after our meeting.  I like it when things work out that way.

Next was a shamanic session with Princess Grace.  These are some of my favorite days because I get to hang with people that I have such a strong affinity for.  I hope I’m not betraying any confidences by sharing that both Princess Grace and I have been working to exist more in our feminine energies.  

We’re both eldest children and grew up quickly, taking on family responsibilities at a young age.  We learned early on…almost from birth…to be strong and decisive.  To protect and care for our siblings.  To channel our masculine energy as a means to survive…not because we were in mortal danger but because that’s what the situations often called for….strength.  

I ended the day meeting up with an old friend from a past life for dinner.  We’ve been following one another on Facebook for years – staying in touch through technology – and finally decided it was time for some face-to-face interaction.


Early on in my career she helped to show me how a woman could be in a position of power yet lead with her feminine energy.  She was direct, yet cooperative….decisive and collaborative…firm but nurturing.   She was everything I needed to see in action and significantly impacted the leader I eventually grew into.  I don’t think I’ve ever told her that…I should…and next time I see her I will.  Thank you, LL, for your guidance, leadership, and support. But most of all, thank you for being a strong woman and my friend.

So, yes, you could say my day was jam packed with feminine energy…including our shaman, Jim.  Sure, he’s a man but in his role he gently held space for Princess Grace and I.  He nurtured the feminine in us by existing in his feminine energy for us…and it felt wonderful.  It was kind of like a big energetic hug.

All day long I was able to be (F) rather than do (M)…intuit (F) versus analyze (M)…I was able to nurture (F) and be nurtured (F), not rushing (M)…feeling receptive (F) not assertive (M).  I was calm (F) instead of busy (M) and allowed (F) myself to go with the flow not feeling the need to try and control (M) it.  


Essentially, I allowed myself to be present…and to stay present even in the midst of a busy day.  Rather than jumping to conclusions or taking action based on conversations, I gave myself permission to patiently lean into potential opportunities and feel my way toward a possible outcome.  I’m staying open to options and trusting that my intuition will guide me.

I had a beautifully busy day and I floated through it – holding space for and being held by those I spent time with.  It was long and I’m tired but my soul feels energized. Cheers to the feminine! Namaste



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