When Karen sent in her questions, we had no idea how interconnected they would be. But as always, the higher self wisdom came through loud and clear—sometimes challenging, sometimes comforting, and always nudging toward deeper self-awareness.
Here’s what came up when we tapped into the collective wisdom to answer her questions.
1. Why Was I Born Shy? (And Is It Really a Stumbling Block?)
First off, Karen’s higher self was quick to correct the question—she wasn’t actually born shy.
Instead, shyness developed as a coping mechanism—a way to withdraw from overwhelming experiences. It wasn’t a flaw, but a form of self-protection. Somewhere along the way, that coping mechanism got mislabeled as an inherent trait, and she (like so many of us) started believing that being “shy” was a problem to be fixed.
But here’s the real shift:
💡 Shyness isn’t a stumbling block. It’s a signal.
When Karen feels “shy,” it’s actually an indicator that she doesn’t want to engage with something. And that’s okay. The key is owning that choice rather than defaulting to the label of “shy.”
Instead of saying:🛑 “I’m too shy to do that.”
Try this instead:✅ “I choose not to engage with this.”
That simple shift moves the energy from disempowerment to empowerment.
✨ Higher Self Homework: Instead of focusing on the moments of withdrawal, look at the places where you naturally engage with ease. What do those moments have in common? What are you passionate about? Do more of that and stop worrying about the rest.
2. How Do I Find My Tribe?
Karen also asked how to find her people—those friends she can truly be herself around.
And this was a powerful response:
👉 Your tribe can’t see you if YOU don’t see you.
Before the right people can show up, Karen needs to start showing up as herself—fully, unapologetically, no hiding. And that starts with breaking free from the “shyness” cloak.
💡 Higher Self Homework:
Physically take off the “shyness” cloak. Imagine yourself removing it, hanging it up, and stepping into your true energy.
Start small. At home, alone—do whatever feels most you. Dance around. Sing out loud. Wear something ridiculous. Get comfortable in your own skin without an audience first.
Step into boldness. The higher selves loved the idea of buying a wild wig (yes, purple was suggested) and wearing it to a random store—just to shake up the energy. Do something unexpected, just for fun.
The bottom line? The people who “get” you can’t find you if you’re hiding. So take up space. Be seen.
3. How Do I Process and Move Through Grief?
Grief is heavy. And for Karen, the hardest part isn’t just grief over losses—it’s the unspoken grief of a life half-lived.
💡 This was a huge revelation: The depth of sadness Karen feels isn’t just about external losses—it’s about the parts of herself that have been suppressed, silenced, or shaped by others' expectations.
But here’s the thing:
👉 If you can feel grief deeply, you also have the capacity to feel joy just as deeply.
Pain and joy exist on the same spectrum. The depth of one allows for the depth of the other. So instead of fearing grief, the challenge is to move through it without resistance—knowing that on the other side, there’s just as much room for love, laughter, and joy.
✨ Higher Self Homework:
Journal on “A Life Half-Lived.” What does that phrase mean to you? Where are you holding back? What would you do differently if you gave yourself permission to fully be?
Practice joy—on purpose. Wear the purple wig. Laugh at ridiculous things. Let yourself be silly. Seek out small moments of joy every day.
Recognize that grief isn’t just about loss. It’s about honoring what was and what can be.
Final Thoughts from the Higher Selves
Karen’s questions—about shyness, friendships, and grief—were all connected in ways she might not have expected. But at the core of every answer was the same message:
💡 Stop hiding. Start fully living.
And that’s a message that applies to all of us.
So if you’re feeling stuck in shyness, unsure of where your people are, or overwhelmed by grief—start with the small steps. Own your choices. Find joy in unexpected places. Let yourself be seen.
The world needs you. The real, unfiltered, unapologetic you.
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